My husband is a fantastic father. It doesn’t matter. Their preference is me every time.
They could be sitting next to my husband watching TV, decide they want their stuffed pet T-rex, get up, and roam the house, calling my name until they find me to ask where it is.
Many families are like this, which is why you, the father (or partner), have to be the one to take initiative. Tell the kids, “I’m putting you to bed tonight,” and don’t give into any plaintive whining.
You may also need to assert it with the “mom” too. “You go rest, honey. I’m taking Berkeley to get his anal glands expressed this afternoon.”