4. Have I been truly open with my partner?
I bet you haven’t. We all have our dirty little secrets. But even if talking about bad things feels intimidating at first, your partner will be able to trust you way more easily if they know that you have nothing to hide.
What’s more important, they will be able to truly support you if they not only know your strengths and glorious victories but also your darkest fears and worst defeats.
I can make a personal point about this with my partner. I won’t go into details for reasons that will quickly become obvious, but my partner decided to open up about their past relationship, which involved sexual assault (non-consensual sex — I try to avoid the bad word here.)
Of course, I was shocked, but it gave me plenty of reason to give my partner all the time, space, and patience they needed in regard to our sex life, and I’m thankful to this day for this immense sign of trust.
Luckily, not everyone will have to deal with that situation, but you need to be honest with your partner. They can’t be there for you if you don’t let them.