5 Things That Happened When I Stopped Using Dating Apps

5. I stopped whinging, and started living. 

Only when I was back on my own did I finally acknowledge my two stark choices:

– Keep waiting for a man to ‘complete me’

– Complete my damn self

It had been a very bumpy ride, but I realized I was quite capable of building my own life with or without a man. Yes, there was something missing, but it wasn’t a man – it was fulfilment and meaning. I’d had everything I needed at my disposal all along. D’oh!

That’s when things started to change.

My epiphany made me proactive. I sought out inspiring single women and let their bravery in sharing their vulnerability and lived experience soothe my bitter bones and motivate me to do better. I learned more about what I love doing — what sparks something in me — and started doing more of it. That led to me selling my home and planning to move into the one I really want for me and my son. It also led to me throwing myself into my work and my writing and getting really clear on what I want out of that. It hasn’t happened overnight, but I’ve worked hard to change my mindset and it’s paid off. I’m seeing things through the lens of what I have, rather than what I don’t, and I’m feeling extraordinarily grateful. Things just feel different.