It’s an understatement to say our society is obsessed with romance and coupledom. Many holidays have been invented to celebrate romantic relationships and policies made to encourage getting married and having children. Single people constantly have to dodge curious and judgmental questions from friends, family, or even strangers about their relationship status.
As a result, many people have internalized, even without realizing it, that they should be with someone — regardless of personal circumstances and characteristics. They struggle to stomach the thought that they will go through life alone without a romantic partner or even reach their mid-30s without a serious relationship. That scenario would seem to them like a huge failure.
If this is you, I feel you — you’re not alone. But you might want to take a closer look at your thinking and decision-making patterns. It’s because this fear of being single can lead to negative feelings and self-destructive behaviors that could hold you back from living a healthy, happy life and finding a worthwhile relationship.
Here are 9 things you might be unknowingly doing because you’re afraid of being single (forever):