6 Ways To Be A Better Partner When You Have An Anxious Attachment Style

1. Have a weekly check-in time with your partner

A lot of anxieties people have in a relationship come from worrying their partner will leave them. To make sure that doesn’t happen, you might be overbearing, jealous, and untrusting.

To help ease your mind, ask your partner if you can do a weekly check-in with one another. Use the time to talk about any concerns you may have in the relationship. Take the time to listen to your partner and ask them to do the same.

2. Ask questions to understand, not for reassurance

If you feel yourself slipping into the habit of asking your partner for the fifth time today if they still love you, take a pause. Ask yourself why it is you’re about to ask your question. Is it to understand your partner’s feelings more or are you seeking reassurance?

Your weekly check-ins will hopefully make you feel more secure in the relationship, but try not to overwhelm your partner by endlessly asking for validation. If it’s something you really struggle with, talk to them about your anxieties or consider seeing a therapist to work through things.